The Inspirors

There are moments that happen that if we don't pay attention to them, we miss out.  I had a few run ins that left me with a feeling of elevation.

Many people provide me with gems of inspiration and I'd like to talk about them and all that they give me.  There are so many of you all around me and I honestly love you all. 

I'd like to start with "Betty"

Within 5 minutes of talking we are knee deep into our lives.  We are acquaintences and have this special way of filling each other in with all the knitty gritty details in a very short matter of time.  She is going through some challenging times right now within her immediate family and she expressed how it is making her feel in a very understandable way;  when a family member is in pain, the entire family feels it.  The interesting thing is that there is another feeling that she is experiencing - thoughts of frustration and anger towards the person who is suffering.  She is uncomfortable with those thoughts but they are there and very real to her. 
She told me and acknowledged that it was hard to admit to those feelings and that those emotions are selfish and that she has to put them out of her mind. 

I told her how I read a great article on parenting related to special needs - i.e. my life obsession right now - and how all the emotions - all of them, whatever the mix may be - shouldn't be judged but should be felt, acknowledged and that we should in fact swim in them for a moment.  It is easier to push forward once we do.  You have to get to that dark place and see it staring back at you so that you can live in that moment of that very experience.  Take it in, cry, whatever, just acknowledge the shittiness of it and that way it can't really fester moving forward.  It is hard to explain.  But I guess my point and what I shared much more eloquently to "Betty" was that it is ok and necessary for people to go there.  It can get easier quicker once you've done that.

Betty is one of those people that just the site of her makes me all warm inside. Thanks for becoming a friend and lots of support to you and your family.

Then there's Pat and Fran - actual names. I love you both. Period.